Monday, August 22, 2011

Nature's helping hand



the ocean turns from


snow ice to vanilla cream


with the rising sun


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My heart melted a little when I forced myself out for this early morning walk and saw the colors of sun on water and dolphins leaping in the surf.

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Someone really screwed me and my daughter over yesterday. It is something that damages us financially and emotionally, since it was a betrayal. Usually, I don't post about such things, but I do if I can find a way to work with them on a creative level.

This is one thing that nature, photography, haiku and other forms of writing do for me. They help me balance the anger and grief over something like this. Do you have ways of dealing with setbacks, particularly those you have no control over?

21 comments:

KarenG said...

I am sorry that you got hurt by someone, it's always difficult to get over a betrayal like that. I deal with such things by pouring it all out in my journal.

Bish Denham said...

Oh how awful! I've experienced a few betrayals, but to involve your daughter as well, that's terrible.

And yes, nature has a way of making things right again, and time. Breathe in, breathe out and never have anything to do with that person again. You can forgive, but you don't have to forget.

Wen Baragrey said...

I'm so sorry, Tricia! The world can be a very unfair place, sometimes. *hugs*

Tricia J. O'Brien said...

Karen: As betrayals go this wasn't the worst one we've endured but, still, it was a blow. The only way not to let stuff like this eat you up is find an outlet. Journals are great for that.

Bish: Yes, it hurts twice as much that my daughter's life is suffering due to this.
Nature is my solace, always has been.

Tricia J. O'Brien said...

Wen: Thank you, my friend. This was UNFAIR--all caps.

Jemi Fraser said...

That's awful! It stinks when that happens. I hope somehow you get some justice ... or at least peace of mind. Take care *hugs*

Donna said...

Yeah, I pound my venom into the keyboard. Three things can happen. 1)relieves stress
2)passionate poetry from the unconscious
3)incredible energy that can be diverted into a project.

Good luck!

Tricia J. O'Brien said...

Jemi: Yeah, it sure does stink. I don't know if we'll get justice, too early to tell.

Donna: I put the energy into scrubbing a floor that needed it. Sometimes it has to be physical.

Donna said...

Glad it works for you. Nothing can make me scrub a floor except company coming.

storyqueen said...

I am so sorry to hear that you and your daughter were hurt.

Sometimes, I just really, REALLY don't understand people.

Hoping the pain lessens a bit each day. And though I know you are far too big a person to consider revenge, you know what they say...

Success is the best revenge.

xoxo-

shelley

Tricia J. O'Brien said...

Shelley: I really don't understand this woman. No ethics, no concern for others, as far as I can tell.
As soon as I calm down enough I'll be writing again and hoping for that success!

Yvonne Osborne said...

I'm sorry to hear this. I find writing to be helpful. Being outside, physical labor, sunshine and writing. Best to you and your daughter.

Liza said...

I'm sorry for the anger...and glad you have sunrise on the ocean to distract you.

Tricia J. O'Brien said...

Yvonne & Liza: Thank you for commiserating. I'm grateful for friends, as well as nature.

Suzanne Casamento said...

I'm sorry someone betrayed you.

Nature and poetry definitely help. I also find that looking for the lesson and listening to what the universe is trying to tell me helps too. Usually makes me a little more accepting of the incident and helps me to let it go.

Phoenix said...

Of all the crappy things humans do to each other, I have the hardest time processing betrayal, whether it's betrayal of myself by another person or watching those I care about be betrayed. It's the very horrid feeling of feeling foolish and wondering how much value the betrayer really placed on me and our friendship.

In the end, I think nature helps us get over ourselves and take things less personally. This person clearly doesn't know how to be loyal and probably loathes him or herself even more than you do. Little comfort at the moment, but... let's look at it this way. At night you get to sleep with your integrity, and your honesty. This person sleeps with neither, and never will, for the rest of his/her life.

I am deeply sorry. Don't let this person rob you of your happiness and your trust in others (or your trust in your own intuition.)

Tricia J. O'Brien said...

Thanks, Suzanne.

Phoenix: Yeah, betrayal is such a kick in the gut, always traumatic. We are moving on, doing a ton of stuff to change our situation. So I won't let her rob me of happiness in the long run. Thanks for the lovely comment.

Karen Amanda Hooper said...

Ugh. I'm sorry you've been betrayed. *hugs*

I'm also sorry about the name confusion over on GR the other day.

But I am grateful that you post such beautiful pictures. They always make me smile.

Tricia J. O'Brien said...

Karen: Well,now, you just made me smile. Thank you!

Lydia K said...

So sorry that happened. You think people are nice and then stuff like this happens...

Thank goodness we have our art to work through the pains and disappointments of life.

Tricia J. O'Brien said...

Lydia: Yes, we did think she was nice. That's what makes it worse.
I've been working on revision the last two days, just keeping my mind lost in another world. ;)